Little Naughty Angels
I personally just love children especially the active naughty ones.Children under the age of five are my favorites.I love talking to them and can spend hours listening to them without getting bored at all.
Children have such bright inquisitive minds with pure hearts full of innocence.They can be anything they want ,go wherever their imagination takes them.
One time they are flying in space like Buzz Lightyear
Another time they are the engine driver of Thomas The Tank Engine
Or They are Popeye The Sailor Man sailing the high seas.
Sometimes children pretend to be doctors and/or nurses
Our first friendships are formed from toddler hood.Our friends then are our neighbors children,our playmates at pre-school,even our pets and toys.
We make friends easily with children of all races ,no discrimination on basis of color,religion,social status or any other adults may use when choosing friends.
A friend is anyone who will play with them as play is a child’s principal activity.Age,race,color do not matter to these little angels.They just want someone to play with them and the playmate is their friend no matter the age.
Define Social Skills
The environment plays a major role in the positive development of a child’s social skills which the child will need to form long-lasting friendships essential in childhood and later on through teenage and adult hood.
Well developed social skills in early childhood will ensure that a child will become a productive member of society in his/her later years.
Refer to Mom Junction for more details on stages of a child’s development.
Children who are brought up not only with love but also self-confidence and lots of understanding will inherit the same traits and reflect those in all of their relationships including early child hood friendships
Developing Friendships In Early Childhood
Their importance is often overlooked yet such friendships form the foundation of healthy positive development of children as they grow older.
Children are naturally attached to their friends more so than adults.Separating a child from his/her friends can cause emotional stress.
Lena Aburdene Derhally gives her own personal example in her article in the Washington Post where she states that her family moved about during her childhood and each time she had to leave behind friends she had made.
Fortunately her parents realising the importance of Lena’s attachments to her friends ensured she stayed in touch with them thus preventing emotional stress from taking its toll on her.
Sometimes parents are not so understanding and just ask the child to make new friends.But though children make new friends far more easily than adults do not think its easy for them.Moving into a new community and fitting in takes time even for adults who realise and understand why they had to move.
Can you realize how stressful and frightening it must be for a child to leave behind neighbours and school mates whom he/she has known so well and have become a major part of his/her life.And to integrate into a new community who may not be so welcoming.
Lena’s Post : Lena Aburdene Post
Childhood Friendships Psychology
Play and Play based activities form the main basis of early childhood friendships.Children are always on the look out for playmates with whom they can share toys,games or become involved in outdoor activities like playing on the swings,roundabout,climbing frame.
That’s why a playground in a school or park is a very good place for forming friendships.
Plus in addition to that children are attracted to other children who are like them in appearance , and who love to do what they do.Especially when they see them on a regular basis such as school mates,neighbours children and even the children of their parent’s friends if they meet up regularly.
Sometimes parents of children’s friends become friends after attending school functions where the children are taking part.
Children Being Friends Through Different Ages
Reference Psychology Today
An article by Eileen Kennedy Moore in Psychology (see above link) describes how children at different stages of growth perceive peers as friends.I have referenced the information and adapted it in my own way for this particular post.
- At six months old babies can recognize and get excited at seeing a peer.they may even try to get close to the other baby by crawling(if they can) and get to know it.But at this stage its more like they are trying to discover “what is that looks like me” as their minds have not yet fully developed to recognize a peer as a friend.
- Toddlers from 12-18 months are able to identify their friends among peers and show certain preferences for them.For example they play simple games like peek a boo and imitating each other.The foundations of friendships are laid down at this age.
- At the ages of two or three years old children recognize and sympathise with a peer.For example if they see a friend crying or sad they will hug them or share their favorite toy or blanket or even chocolate or sweet just to make their friend happy.But also at this stage children are also frivolous in their friendships as they are very young and their understanding is not fully developed.If they find a friend does not want to join them in what they are doing then that peer is not a friend at least for that time or day at most.
- At ages of 5-9 years children are selfish in their friendships.They become friends with nice children who do things for them like offering them a seat in the bus,giving their friend their favourite toy or chocolate/sweet.Friendship is used as a bargaining tool to get what they want.
So it can be seen that right from the time babies are born and become aware of their surroundings,the concept of friendship is born in them though in different ways depending upon the age and developmental stage.