Friends Need To Regularly Communicate

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Friends need to regularly  communicate and chat  among themselves to  keep the friendship alive.Otherwise there is a risk it will die down slowly over time.

 

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Just like a fire needs to be continuously stoked and  monitored so that it doesn’t die down , so too must friendship be treated as such.Friends are very special people and care needs to be taken that we don’t take them for granted.

Otherwise one day we will wake up and find that we were so busy counting the stars that we missed the moon.Friendship can be likened to a Garden.

Take loving care of it and beautiful flowers and delicious fruits will grow in it benefiting you only.Neglect it and it will choke up with weeds and nothing will be able to grow in it.

What You See Is What You Get(WYSWG)
The most important rule of friendship is that each friend takes the other as they are, for what they are.

Friends don’t see status,power,money or other worldly things .Friends see your heart,your character and most importantly dependability and trust.

For what use is a friend who cannot be trusted or depended upon?

Best friends trust each other with their most closely guarded secrets,their innermost feelings sometimes with their lives.And friends have and will continue to give their lives for their friends.

 

You will only fully understand a person when you start talking and listening  to them,not only verbally but body language is very important also.

Friends Communicate Regularly

So its not just enough, that friends are talking.

More than that friends need to be understanding each other as they are talking.

Things like “Is Rhianna truly listening to what I am saying?”,”Does she realize why I am saying what I am saying?” and start to pick up cues .

Immediately if they feel something is not right.For friends are there to be the mirrors in our lives.

They see the things in us which maybe we cannot see.

In today’s fast paced world where people have no time for even themselves, let alone friends.

It is very important we keep chatting to our friends regularly and more importantly meeting up.

Only then will we able to lead happy,fulfilled and joyful lives.

For life is very lonely and painful without strong faithful friends.

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/a-to-z/f/friendship-and-mental-health

 

Friends Through Various Life Stages

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
Friendship Day Quotes by: Anais Nin

Friends!

Friends are the second people we develop relations with after the people in whose house we are born.Our first friends will probably be the neighboring children with whom we play our games and the children at the pre-school and later kindergarten.As children our friends mean the world to us.They are first and foremost our playmates and since at that age our world is our play activities we could not imagine life without them.

 

As we grow up and enter the teenage stage of life  our friends take on the role of confidants and we are somewhat choosy on whom we choose to accept in our circle of friends. As unlike in our infancy stage where a friend was just a playmate and nothing much else, now our friends take on our reflection and therefore we choose friends we are compatible with. We start becoming attractive to the opposite sex and want to make a lasting impression on them thus the need to show the right image and be seen to be associating with the right “crowd” so that our reputation is not tarnished.

Thus it is most important that we are viewed as “cool” and “hot” and not as nerds and/or jerks.This kind of classification is extremely dangerous  if allowed to get out of hand and in some cases has permanent inferiority complex effect on those who have been classified as such. Leading to depression later on in life for those who were too weak to bear the shame or formation of psycho criminals for others out for revenge on the “cool guys” whom they blame for making their lives miserable.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/todd-kestin/the-6-friends-your-teen-should-avoid_b_5648855.html

 

 

But the most important stage of friendship I personally believe is after 40 yrs when your children have grown up and are leading their own lives, and you yearn to “connect” with someone apart from your spouse with whom you can talk to about anything and everything without feeling ashamed that you will be interrupted by an impatient child who most probably cannot understand you or what you are going through.This is where your old school friends come in who are probably experiencing same things you are going through. Those teenage “chili” and “flowers” have now become capsicums and cauliflowers and you are no longer afraid to talk to them as you may have been when you were a teenager.With whats app its so easy to be in touch wherever your school friend maybe and from personal experience I can say that most school friends are so a happy to be connected with their old mates.

In case you have reached “The Forties” and have lost touch with your old friends and are feeling lonely, maybe the below article from Live Strong.com will help you.

http://www.livestrong.com/article/210946-how-to-make-friends-at-40/

 

So these are the friends through our various stages and blessed are those who have best friends at old age to make their last years in the world a very happy one.

http://www.friendshipday.org/friendship-day-special.html