“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
Friendship Day Quotes by: Anais Nin
Friends are the second people we develop relations with after the people in whose house we are born.Our first friends will probably be the neighboring children with whom we play our games and the children at the pre-school and later kindergarten.As children our friends mean the world to us.They are first and foremost our playmates and since at that age our world is our play activities we could not imagine life without them.
As we grow up and enter the teenage stage of life our friends take on the role of confidants and we are somewhat choosy on whom we choose to accept in our circle of friends. As unlike in our infancy stage where a friend was just a playmate and nothing much else, now our friends take on our reflection and therefore we choose friends we are compatible with. We start becoming attractive to the opposite sex and want to make a lasting impression on them thus the need to show the right image and be seen to be associating with the right “crowd” so that our reputation is not tarnished.
Thus it is most important that we are viewed as “cool” and “hot” and not as nerds and/or jerks.This kind of classification is extremely dangerous if allowed to get out of hand and in some cases has permanent inferiority complex effect on those who have been classified as such. Leading to depression later on in life for those who were too weak to bear the shame or formation of psycho criminals for others out for revenge on the “cool guys” whom they blame for making their lives miserable.
But the most important stage of friendship I personally believe is after 40 yrs when your children have grown up and are leading their own lives, and you yearn to “connect” with someone apart from your spouse with whom you can talk to about anything and everything without feeling ashamed that you will be interrupted by an impatient child who most probably cannot understand you or what you are going through.This is where your old school friends come in who are probably experiencing same things you are going through. Those teenage “chili” and “flowers” have now become capsicums and cauliflowers and you are no longer afraid to talk to them as you may have been when you were a teenager.With whats app its so easy to be in touch wherever your school friend maybe and from personal experience I can say that most school friends are so a happy to be connected with their old mates.
In case you have reached “The Forties” and have lost touch with your old friends and are feeling lonely, maybe the below article from Live Strong.com will help you.
So these are the friends through our various stages and blessed are those who have best friends at old age to make their last years in the world a very happy one.