Why Having a Girl Best Friend (GBF) Can Do Wonders for Your Life

Yes Guys You Heard It Right.

Having A Girl Best Friend (GBF) can do wonders for your life.

A gal best buddy makes you see things in a different way,

See things from another angle,

And even make you more attractive to your wife or girlfriend.

Female Friend Bringing Her Best Buddy Back to Earth

But having such a beautiful platonic relationship is not easy for most men. In fact it’s darned difficult.

The Traditional Image of Men

Most of us Men have been brought up to look and feel tough, kind of like Conan the Barbarian types.

Men are supposed to be warriors, dominating types who have beautiful shapely women as their trophies.

Conquests of their battles they parade these beautiful trophies among their comrades, as a sign of their strength and virility.

These “trophy” women are supposed to be obedient to the whims of their “masters” i.e. the men.

They are not supposed to think for themselves, offer suggestions or worst of all openly challenge their “masters”.

Conan The Barbarian With Beautiful woman

Movies and Women

Television and Mainstream Cinema (Hollywood and Bollywood) has further given credence to the “macho man” image.

Just look at the James Bond movies for example.

The image of the macho hero and his beautiful co agents as depicted in below video.

The Role of Pornography

Pornography which attracts most men to some extent or another

Has further eroded the credibility of women.

And thanks to advancement in technology porn is now available in the palm of your hand.

Unlike in the eighties when you had to go looking for girlie magazines or blue videos.

Having brought up in such an environment, is it any wonder that a woman for a man is just someone to fulfill his carnal desires.

And woe be toe a woman who tries to be friendly to a guy taking him to be a nice person.

Unless the fellow is a really decent understanding and respectful, of whom they are very few, the guy will take it as a come on.

No wonder so many rape cases are done by people known to the victim.

Yes Guys understanding women is not easy.

They expect us men to understand their high level coded language, which we are very poor at (Ask any husband or boyfriend).

And this here your very special GBF (Girl Best Friend) here  in to explain the situation to you in simple language.

Makes life a whole lot easier eh?

 

Girl Best Friend Offering Her Buddy An Insight Into The Female Mind

There are many other advantages of having a GBF (Girl Best Friend) which we will explore later.

But firstly how can you identify that this girl you can consider your female buddy?

Firstly hanging out with such a girl should feel like you are hanging out with your buddy but in another body.

You laugh together, go dancing wildly, do crazy things, get drunk.

Yet even in your weakest moment, you cannot imagine sleeping with her.

You are both absolutely clear that neither of you has any romantic interest at all in each other in the least. You are just very good friends Period.

Neither of you feels the slightest hint of jealousy when one or both of you mention your romantic partners.

In fact you seek out each other’s honest advice on your romantic relationships.

And are happy for each other when one or both of you mention that you are going steady with someone.

You Share Your Friend’s Happiness.

Here are some reasons why you need a girl best friend in your life

Courtesy of  www.scoopwhoop.com

https://www.scoopwhoop.com/entertainment/girl-best-friend/#.nbipxkaqz

  1. You can afford to be emotional in front of her, something you can’t do with your buddies as men are not supposed to show emotions in general.
  2.  It’s much easier to open up to her as she will be more understanding.
  3. She is your relationship tutor advising you on what your girlfriend might or might not like.
  4. Let alone girlfriends’ even married women need such advice.
  5. Because truthfully only women fully understand women. Men never will.
  6. With your female buddy, you can talk about other things apart from the usual men talk about sports,cars,,business, politics .
  7. You can for example talk about interior decoration,travel,children and many other things you wouldn’t normally talk about with your guy buddies.
  8. Your best girlfriend makes sure that you are dressed up properly by helping you choose appropriate outfits.
  9. And believe me women are very good at choosing outfits for men.
  10. My wife now chooses what I wear to the office every day and due to this all of my clothes are worn.
  11. Unlike before when I was choosing them and would repeat the same few selections all the time.(Uhhh!!!)
  12. By having a Girl Best Friend you start to gain an understanding of the female mind.
  13. Which can help improve your relationship with your spouse or girlfriend.
  14. Because you are around with a lady your manners, attitude and respect in general towards the opposite sex becomes better.
  15. As you are conscious that this is a special and unique kind of relationship which you are  very lucky to have.
  16. A Girl Best Friend is chicken soup for the broken heart .
  17. The best person to talk to if your girlfriend has ditched you or your relationship is in a turmoil.
  18. You will not only get a shoulder to cry on but sound advice on what to do.
  19. Far better than hitting the bottle or getting stupid advice from your drinking buddies.
  20. A Girl Best Friend is like a sister but without really being one.
  21. Like she doesn’t have to tie a rake on you and you promise to protect her always (see below).
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  23. You are both free and independent yet there for each other when called upon.
  24. Having a Girl Best Friend means you get to meet all of her girlfriends.
  25. Be the envy of your buddies by having many beauties knowing you.

 

Having a Girl Best Friend (GBF) can really make you a better person as stated above.

One who can walk proudly with Head held High.

But you must earn her trust and respect.

And both of you are absolutely clear on the kind of relationship you have.

Else you will  screw up a very special and beautiful friendship forever.

I would love to know your opinions on the above topic.

 

Friends Need To Regularly Communicate

Girls Having A Laugh

Friends need to regularly  communicate and chat  among themselves to  keep the friendship alive.Otherwise there is a risk it will die down slowly over time.

 

Best Therapy
A Chat With A Good Friend Best Therapy

Just like a fire needs to be continuously stoked and  monitored so that it doesn’t die down , so too must friendship be treated as such.Friends are very special people and care needs to be taken that we don’t take them for granted.

Otherwise one day we will wake up and find that we were so busy counting the stars that we missed the moon.Friendship can be likened to a Garden.

Take loving care of it and beautiful flowers and delicious fruits will grow in it benefiting you only.Neglect it and it will choke up with weeds and nothing will be able to grow in it.

What You See Is What You Get(WYSWG)
The most important rule of friendship is that each friend takes the other as they are, for what they are.

Friends don’t see status,power,money or other worldly things .Friends see your heart,your character and most importantly dependability and trust.

For what use is a friend who cannot be trusted or depended upon?

Best friends trust each other with their most closely guarded secrets,their innermost feelings sometimes with their lives.And friends have and will continue to give their lives for their friends.

 

You will only fully understand a person when you start talking and listening  to them,not only verbally but body language is very important also.

Friends Communicate Regularly

So its not just enough, that friends are talking.

More than that friends need to be understanding each other as they are talking.

Things like “Is Rhianna truly listening to what I am saying?”,”Does she realize why I am saying what I am saying?” and start to pick up cues .

Immediately if they feel something is not right.For friends are there to be the mirrors in our lives.

They see the things in us which maybe we cannot see.

In today’s fast paced world where people have no time for even themselves, let alone friends.

It is very important we keep chatting to our friends regularly and more importantly meeting up.

Only then will we able to lead happy,fulfilled and joyful lives.

For life is very lonely and painful without strong faithful friends.

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/a-to-z/f/friendship-and-mental-health

 

PLATONIC FRIENDSHIP

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What is a Platonic Friendship?

A Platonic relationship is a deep friendship between two genders of the opposite sex who do not have any romantic or sexual feelings for each other.The relationship can be between two single people or two happily married people.Both parties are clear, that they are just good friends who enjoy talking to and being in each other’s company that’s all.

For the success of a beautiful platonic relationship some clear ground rules need to be set.There must not be any kind of physical or sexual attraction with your platonic friend, else you will mess up a very beautiful friendship and lose all of the benefits.A platonic friend is nothing more than your buddy in a different body ,who must be given great respect the way you would to a beautiful work of art.

Why should you have Platonic Friendships and how can they benefit you?

  • Platonic friendships enable shared experiences at an emotional and spiritual level.Think of your platonic friend as your soulmate.Sometimes you may have issues you cannot discuss easily with your better half but you can with your friend.
  • Platonic friendships don’t have the doubts ,jealousies,complications which arise out of romantic and sexual attractions.As in platonic relationships one friend’s life and how they live it does not affect the other.
  • Platonic friends help you to better understand about the opposite sex in a non-judgemental way.Especially for men this is most important,as any man will tell you to try to understand what a woman is saying and more so why she is saying that is next to impossible!!!

Platonic Relationships While Married/Living Together

Balancing a healthy platonic relationship especially when you are married or in a relationship is a very tricky business as there is a great risk your platonic friend may be seen as an interference or worse competition by your lover or spouse.Even in today’s 21st century there is a belief among some people that after a woman is married she has to devote her whole life to the service of her husband and his family and forget her former life.What a load of Bull!

A spouse or lover has to understand that his/her partner before they met and fell in love had and still have a life of their own with their own interests,hobbies and yes  friends of both sexes and you cannot just expect them to cut off ties or stop doing what they were doing now that they are attached to you.Yes you are now a major part of their lives but not the whole part.Their friends were and still are an important part of their lives.

Platonic friendships best succeed where both men and women realize that there is more than just a physical relationship between sexes.There is also a brotherly/sisterly kind of love which forms a major part in a such  relationships.Where a member of the opposite sex especially a woman  is viewed with respect much as one would view a beautiful painting ,such relationships not only stand a much better chance of success but will be longer lasting and secure with great benefits.

Culture and Platonic Relationships

With reference to the above,culture plays an important part  in the success of platonic relationships.In Indian culture families stay together in some cases even extended families.Every family member has a unique title.The father is called “Pitaji”,the mother “Ba” or “Maa” or Maaji”.Daughters in law are “Bahu” while son in laws are “Jamais”.Elder brothers of the husband are known as “Jethji” while younger ones are known as “Dever”.Younger brothers and their wives respectfully address the elder sister in law as “Bhabi” a term used even by people in addition to “Bahenji” to respectfully address a lady.Ladies will respectfully address a man as Bhaiya (Brother).

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Wiktionary:Requested_entries_(Hindi)/Multilingual_list_of_Indian_family_relation_names

In fact in Indian families platonic relationships start within the family itself.Elder sisters in law are generally very affectionate in a sisterly/motherly way towards their husbands younger brothers, especially if they are single.Like wise husbands tend to be affectionate towards their “saalis”(sisters of their wives) especially if they are younger and single.With the seeds of a platonic relationship sowed within the home coupled with respect for women its much easier to understand and form platonic relationships outside.

To sum up platonic relationships are not only healthy but very important for a person to grow all round.It also used wisely adds spice to a relationship as a partner can jokingly say”Don’t underestimate me ,I have so many male(female) friends who find me attractive”. Just ensure you don’t break the Ground Rules.

 

 

 

 

 

Friends Through Various Life Stages

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
Friendship Day Quotes by: Anais Nin

Friends!

Friends are the second people we develop relations with after the people in whose house we are born.Our first friends will probably be the neighboring children with whom we play our games and the children at the pre-school and later kindergarten.As children our friends mean the world to us.They are first and foremost our playmates and since at that age our world is our play activities we could not imagine life without them.

 

As we grow up and enter the teenage stage of life  our friends take on the role of confidants and we are somewhat choosy on whom we choose to accept in our circle of friends. As unlike in our infancy stage where a friend was just a playmate and nothing much else, now our friends take on our reflection and therefore we choose friends we are compatible with. We start becoming attractive to the opposite sex and want to make a lasting impression on them thus the need to show the right image and be seen to be associating with the right “crowd” so that our reputation is not tarnished.

Thus it is most important that we are viewed as “cool” and “hot” and not as nerds and/or jerks.This kind of classification is extremely dangerous  if allowed to get out of hand and in some cases has permanent inferiority complex effect on those who have been classified as such. Leading to depression later on in life for those who were too weak to bear the shame or formation of psycho criminals for others out for revenge on the “cool guys” whom they blame for making their lives miserable.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/todd-kestin/the-6-friends-your-teen-should-avoid_b_5648855.html

 

 

But the most important stage of friendship I personally believe is after 40 yrs when your children have grown up and are leading their own lives, and you yearn to “connect” with someone apart from your spouse with whom you can talk to about anything and everything without feeling ashamed that you will be interrupted by an impatient child who most probably cannot understand you or what you are going through.This is where your old school friends come in who are probably experiencing same things you are going through. Those teenage “chili” and “flowers” have now become capsicums and cauliflowers and you are no longer afraid to talk to them as you may have been when you were a teenager.With whats app its so easy to be in touch wherever your school friend maybe and from personal experience I can say that most school friends are so a happy to be connected with their old mates.

In case you have reached “The Forties” and have lost touch with your old friends and are feeling lonely, maybe the below article from Live Strong.com will help you.

http://www.livestrong.com/article/210946-how-to-make-friends-at-40/

 

So these are the friends through our various stages and blessed are those who have best friends at old age to make their last years in the world a very happy one.

http://www.friendshipday.org/friendship-day-special.html